Friday, July 16, 2010
Beginnings (a.k.a. the official first post of this blog)
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Monday, June 14, 2010
UPDATE: Final week in Albania
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Eclectic stories from Albania Part III: Laura
Thursday, June 10, 2010
A lighthearted evening
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
O, the deep, deep Love
Tuesday, June
Upon reading Stepping Heavenward again tonight, I realized that I too sometimes struggle to fathom and believe God’s love for me, at every moment, even after all I am and have done. But I must learn to trust that he does!
I asked him to help me see his love for me better… and there it was, clear, his hand on my life from birth ‘til now, and every blessing and challenge He hand-chose for me. If he did not love me, why would he grow me in grace? Has he not had already and does he not still have a plan for my life beyond my comprehension? Many things that are true in my life now, I would never have dreamed before. School, teaching, missions, the changes in me, Scott…Yep, all delightful surprises. Oh, and of course Mexico and Albania. ;)
Dear Lord, thank you for loving me as even I can’t fathom, and having your hand on each part of my life. Forgive me for when I don’t pursue your love. Thank you for trials that press me closer to you or chase me towards your will. Please help me grow more. Thanks for the example of your love in Scott. Help me believe your love even in my failures, that I may act more faithfully.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
One Father
Well, here is what our weekend held…
On Saturday we got to go to an orphanage, run by Christian organization as well as working with the Albanian government... I think I expected a lot worse when we were told we could just go hold kids that might not get held much... but it was a beautiful place with lots of rooms and the caretakers seemed good and attentive and the babies and young kids all seemed quite happy. Only about 30 kids, I think. A few are abandoned and adoptable (and amazingly, they said pretty much all of these get adopted before they're six or even much before)--the rest have different situations, like maybe parents who aren't able to take them home, or a mom who is still getting set up, or they said even more sad sometimes a mom will get remarried and the new husband won't want the kid. But it was a good place, and cool that they have some good happy endings often. We cleaned and sanitized toys and stuff, the boys got lots of mowing and yard work done, and we got to play with the kids a little too. All are under six and most are under 3.
We got back for youth group, which was good as always. Sunday was church--my 21 yr old student Eriza was there, we want to find her a bible soon in Albanian (she already took one in english). But she is also busy right now because it is test time for the schools, they have crazy tests and papers and everyone is busy and stressed.
After church we hung out with the youth and had lunch, and played some games and I got to play guitar a little. Then we went to a church hangout time at the park... played some games like volleyball and stuff... i'm a little sore ;) but it was fun. and then, oh my goodness, there was a little horse in the park just wandering--i still don't know whether it was wild or belonged to someone... but it was tame enough to have us come up to it, feed it, etc, and was completely fine and i was thinking of our horses, and then a little bit later while we were all standing around one of the missionaries' little girl was feeding it and startled it a little, and instead of just spooking like a normal horse, it lunged at her and bit her! i couldn't believe it... i should have maybe expected something like that, since it was a pony, and as i later realized a stallion (not fixed). yikes. but she bled a little on her cheek and they took her home... i'm sure she'll be fine but she might love ponies a little less now!! I felt bad. :( but she's a tough little girl. whew. so today i'm at the lincoln center, no class until 5 though.
Friday, June 4, 2010
Tonight, I think of Mexico.
Fri june 4? 2010
Today was an interesting but okay day. In my mind was contrasted the difference between my mexico trip and this one. It is nice to have privacy and uninterrupted free time here… but I think of how much easier it was for me to build relationships and find time to minister when I lived every hour of the day and week among the people. Ah…I appreciate the company here, and the fellow Americans to help me learn and grow and think out my time here—speakers of my own language even! But I can’t help but think of how liberating it was to have only my own feelings and self to contend with, and if I was well enough, then fine, and the rest could be devoted to the people. Here (as much as this is ministry and Christian service as well) I have the emotions and concerns of 7 others to deal with (I suppose) besides the nationals (To those who are single--do not underestimate the gift of this time you now have to focus your mind and actions more unreservedly on ministering to those around you!!). Now, I do like to have others to care and fret for. But it’s even better if those others are my very own (family, etc). It’s as if I forgot, people are difficult sometimes. ;)
Ah, but I think of how blessed I was in mexico. Here at times we have a hard time, feeling useless, or un-missions-y…. Mexico I remember some first few days finding myself on a too-tiny bike with a kid on my handlebars, riding down a road that was much too bumpy to handle… It just doesn’t get much more classic than that. I just laughed inside.
Tomorrow, we go to the orphanage.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Partnership
Wed June 2
Tonight I was fortunate enough to get to talk to Scott on facebook instant messenger. It was both encouraging and sad… I miss him. He is one who cares about what’s inside me, what’s going on… to whom I can open my heart some evenings as I like to. I’ve really missed talking through life with him. I can and have often lately appreciated how much he has helped me be able to understand and express my thoughts.
It’s been good communication with the group mostly…. But I think maybe I realize, again, more now, like in mexico and Bear Valley, and here, that I grow tired of such ministry situations. In Mexico, I did love working by myself, lost among my people, but I was still lonely for a companion in ministry. Then in Bear Valley, beautiful partnership in some aspects, but still a few bitter stings of disunity or collision—even when I thought I tried my best to communicate and become unified in pursuit and mind. I sought perfect partnership, but it eluded me.
Now, this trip, I really have been blessed with a good hand of ministry companions. And I am more capable than ever to pursue good ministry partnership as I mature… and I love the group, and I can work with this. But. But, but—it’s just not right. There are feelings and opinions and misunderstandings and miscommunications and more I’m sure—even in the best of groups this size. There is no amount of time, let alone understanding for everyone to be on the same page as everyone else. Now I do not expect more for what it is. But again I long for perfect partnership.
…I know that marriage is no perfect partnership. I’ve seen enough of dating to believe that no relationship between two sinful people will ever be perfect. But…God’s very purpose for marriage was or is a unified striving for his better glory and service. –I long for it. I could almost say that I feel disjointed without it in ministry, but I’m not sure that’s how I should feel…because I know I must make the best of each season I’m given.
But, for better or worse, I am sure I do long for the day of ministry like that. Especially the work of ministering to my precious husband (first), to increase his own ministry, and then my kids. This is the ministry that makes so much sense to me… maybe like a bird (this is cheesy) sitting in the nest but longing to take wing. It’s not that I don’t enjoy sitting here, in the comfort of the easy life, but mmm, how it would feel—how terrifying and exhilarating and beautiful—to fly.
Sunday, May 30, 2010
UPDATE: Halfway?!
Well, i suppose it is high time i write another update to you all! Believe it or not, wednesday May 26 marked the halfway point of our trip--i can't believe how fast it is going. Let me bring you up to speed on a few different things. and knowing me, i'll probably make the length worth the wait ;)
CLASSES
i believe at the time of my last update, we had two classes total with the hope of more to come. We needn't have worried... we now have 11 classes between the four of us with TESOL training--in fact, two of the boys (non-TESOL) have had to step up and help teach two of those classes. we came close to being spread a little too thin, but were able to arrange classes between us (they're at three different centers, by the way, each a good 15-20 min walk apart). Some classes are in the afternoon, but most are in the evening. Most classes are ten or less students, some closer to five. Most are for conversation and general lessons, but we also have one academic writing class, and two classes that are prep for the TOEFL test (a standardized english test for college entrance).
Aside from my original 5PM class with 4 students, i now have a 12:30 PM class with just a few students, and on the occasional days that Jon can't teach his night class, i power walk after mine to the lincoln center 3 to teach it.
The smaller classes are difficult sometimes, especially when attendance is low, but i really enjoy my 5:00 class and the others are going well. I think overall there is a majority of women students, but there are a few men also.
Some classes last two weeks, and some four.
Several of us have had chances to have coffee (or tea in my case) with some of our students, which has been great. Laura and i have gone several times with one girl, who is only 21... she is very sweet and we have enjoyed spending time with her. she and another one of my students continue to come to the church that meets here on sundays.
THE GROUP
we have mostly been good as far as health, with only a few small troubles, but are getting better. I think we'd all agree that our group has been getting along very well and working well together, even when we're spread out and don't see everyone as much. over the last weekend we went to the historic city of kruja, it was really beautiful. bought a few things in the old street markets... it was really cool. and we went to the museum, and saw a statue of the old Albanian hero Skanderbeg. we also went to a restaurant and got "fresh chicken"... Genci told us that it would take a bit longer because they have to catch and kill the chicken when we order it... laura of course thought he was teasing, but he wasn't after all. the girls were quite taken aback. ;) we laughed as Laura insisted, "i can still taste it running around in my mouth!!" hahah. but what a gorgeous view, there were ruins and kids playing soccer in them, we got some really great pictures. (i'll have to post them on facebook, later).
A FEW TIDBITS ABOUT ALBANIA
about the religious atmosphere: a LOT of the people we meet will say they're muslim, but of those almost none are practicing at all. some even claim to be muslim when they have started going to a different church... Just as many in the US may perhaps call themselves Jewish or Catholic more by ethnicity or family tradition than actual practice. So, although the great majority of people we meet would call themselves "muslim" as is reflected in Albanian demographics, i think we have yet to MEET one who is actually practicing to a significant extent... although we have seen just a few here and there on the streets with the head coverings. only very few.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Eclectic Stories from Albania, Part II: Mitchell
Dear old Mitchell had his share of interesting experiences. Being proudly Chinese (that is, both sets of grandparents were born in China ;) ) Mitchell was a less common sight for many Albanians. Mitchell took most of it in stride, though I’m sure some of the “China, China!” or “Kinez!” ruffled his feathers a bit.
But one of our favorite funny stories: Mitchell was walking with a few others when suddenly an older man caught him by the arm. “Excuse me! Are you from America?” Mitchell said that he was, and the man seemed very excited. “Oh! Listen. I have two nieces. One in Chicago, and one in Los Angeles! Would you like to have coffee?” It quickly became apparent to Mitchell that the man was very interested in setting Mitchell up with one of his nieces… Others who were there may even say that the man practically proposed to Mitchell for his nieces. Hey Mitchell, come on, live a little! (…though perhaps he was waiting not for an Albanian, but for a lovely German girl… ;) )
We also shared a few giggles and eye-rolls when a few of us were approached by an Albanian man who was a Jehovah’s Witness. He didn’t speak much English at all, but tried animatedly to give us some informational pamphlets, quickly sorting through to find English ones. Seeing Mitchell, he pointed his finger as if to say “Aha—wait—“ and then proudly produced a pamphlet in Chinese. Mitchell doesn’t really read Chinese, besides a few numbers and the word for “Japanese person” which he taught me… “No,” explained Mitchell over and over. “I’m from America, I speak English! I don’t read Chinese! …English!” Finally the man understood and gave a resounding “Ah!” continuing, “I’m sorry. I thought, because, you know—“ and he proceeded to gesture towards Mitchell and then stretch his eyes with his fingers to make them look squinted. A few of us suppressed our surprised laughter, catching one another’s glances. Mitchell just sighed as he often does when exasperated, rolling his eyes good-humoredly.
Mitchell once had the experience of substitute teaching Kendra’s class… unfortunately, the poor guy had been given the wrong book to prepare and found himself in the class as if he were up a creek without a paddle! …Though according to Kendra, the students appreciated her that much more when she returned.
Finally was the infamous time when Stephen and Laura were chasing Mitchell around a pool during our VERY windy day at the beach in Durres, commanding him to get in the pool (clothes and all). When he refused, he was struck by a haphazard piece of pipe, blowing in the wind, which cut his head open (not bad, but enough to bleed quite a bit and have all the girls in quite a stir). Indeed he survived, and of course his fuzzy Asian hair quickly grew to cover the scar.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Eva and Hospitality
Eva is such a blessing! She is lots of fun and full of comfort and interesting things. She is like our wonderful Albanian mother (though I suppose many of these qualities are hallmarks of Albanian culture itself). Every evening we happily receive her warm greeting and smell her warm, delicious cooking. she insists that we make ourselves fully at home. There seems to be something among Albanians where they'd almost be offended if you didn't allow them the opportunity to go out of their way to make you at home. It's a learning point for many of us Americans, who often live our lives to be as little inconvenience to others as possible. Lest we seem cold to some other cultures, I think it is good for us to learn to be humble enough to accept hospitality graciously, to sometimes allow ourselves to be served. This almost sounds heretical as I write it--Christians, of course, are called to serve others. But I do not think that this necessarily excludes allowing chances for others to serve us as well. I mean that we should have an attitude of humility, whether that be in serving others or in graciously accepting the help or kindness that others give us.
I don't know if Eva knows just how much she ministers to us. She works as a nanny, often for families of foreign diplomats... That certainly suits her. She has the type of heart that looks on the children practically as her very own and cares for them as such... like she has done for us. I even chuckle when she gives us motherly advice or scoldings--from choosing the absolute best food for us to eat when we're sick, to insisting that if i go to bed with wet hair, i will wake up with a cold or cough. Mama Eva...That's her.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
college-career study
Pearl

Friday, May 21, 2010
Eclectic Stories from Albania, Part 1
Thursday, May 20, 2010
2 Peter 1:3
Thursday, May (Apparently I am far too reliant on my cell phone to tell me the date)
At the moment, I am rather humbled at how much grace God has given our team so far… I mean this in particular with getting along agreeably and bearing with one another. We may have small rough moments and such, but as of the moment as far as I know, none of us have any standing issues of bitterness or aggravation with any of the others, which is great. It makes an incredible difference to have a team unified to support and encourage one another in ministry, something I’ve missed for a while (although indeed FCC youth staff and such are great, it’s just stronger and more noticeable here). Communication flows (except when it is miscommunicated, but that is expectable). Lord, this unity is perhaps the one thing I most desire for our team, which I have so longed for in times past… I can’t thank you enough, God, for this blessing. Please continue it and mature us to be your servants… and seasoned with salt!
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
UPDATE: First Lesson at the Lincoln, Albania
Monday, May 17, 2010
Reflection on the first day teaching
5-17-10
At times I really think that I enjoy God’s greatness nearly as much upon eating a delicious and longed-for meal as I do upon singing a great hymn... ;) and tonight was such a night. It was a chilly, cloudy, and showery day; and we got lost a bit on the way home, and walked a bit longer in the cold as dusk came. But we were safe, and Eva fed us some incredible soup, some meat with gravy, and a smoothie of kiwi and strawberry for desert. Yum!
Anyway. Today was a long day (at least it feels so now, after walking home) & I had my first lesson, finally! It went well, I think. I was worried a little during lesson planning that I would not fill the time well, but it filled perfectly. I happened before upon the story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, for whom God did the miraculous for His name’s sake. I was convinced God would glorify his name even through me—“I have glorified it and will glorify it again!” It is for his glory and kingdom, these classes, it is his own glory to be shown in my teaching. I felt mostly calm and confident, & it came along mostly naturally. Teaching is a stretch for me, but stretching is good.
My class is 6-7 women, mostly 30-40 years old, and one 16-year-old. They were rather willing to talk, which is nice. After class, when I had breathed a sigh of having conquered the first lesson and ended on time (my biggest prayer was that they trust my competence, & aside from their laughter when I said I was only 20 years old, I think they did), Stef smiled at me and we started down the marble stairs… who would meet us near the bottom but my student Majlinda (“Mylinda”). She spoke to us and asked to come to the English church service we have here on Sundays, in order to get more English exposure… of course, we gladly agreed! Also she asked us to coffee, and so we went, full of joy and adrenaline.
She tells us she is an accountant, and wishes to learn English to communicate better with her boss, who is not Albanian. It obviously distresses her, she says that she gets nervous and freezes up and is afraid to lose her job—I hope we can meet this need. She says she is a Muslim, but she most often goes to an orthodox church with her husband.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Sunday 5-16-10
Church today J I’ve been reading the book “Stepping Heavenward”… it’s a great story, and of course also full of much good spiritual lessons. One seemingly repetitive theme is our sin and what our reaction to it should be—the book explores our human tendency to get focused on our sin and badness, thinking we can never recover or be profitable for God… this is indeed a temptation for me at times! The character whose journal it is encourages instead (as she learns) that we look to Christ instead in realization that we can never be perfect, but already are in him, who loves us…
It has rained a lot today, off and on, even poured at times. Nice. Church was good, and so was young professionals (college group like). Talked about femininity… I told Laura she ought to show her affirmation to Stephen’s leadership by showing him little kindnesses like giving him a shoulder rub, etc… she thinks my awkward jokes hilarious.
Yesterday we went to the beach at Durres with the youth group, which was tons of fun despite the CRAZY wind. Laura's story of the day here.
Eva’s kindness hospitality is indeed humbling. She is most content when we are, and insists we treat her home like our own… leave our things on the tables and drawers, eat whatever, etc. She is wonderfully kind. And we eat so healthy and well!
Tomorrow is teaching… I shall trust.
Friday, May 14, 2010
UPDATE: The City, and Preparing to Teach
THE CITY
perhaps i shall tell you a bit more about the city (there's much that can be told!). as i said, it is bustling with people and cars and noises and so many smells and merchandise. after communism fell, MANY of the lower levels of buildings have been transformed into shops of all kinds--from clothes to food to perfumes, deorations, postcards, everything. street vendors sell vegetables and any merchandise they've gotten their hands on (not really pushy or anything, just there). we've seen a few gypsy (Roma) beggars as well.
the cars honk all the time, as if it will help ease traffic, and we are told that we must never expect them to wait for us... one of our translators joked that they'll only stop for you if they're afraid you'll dent their car. the other day i laughed to see a car, as if its brakes were out (but i doubt it) honked feverishly and went straight through a crosswalk. but the native albanians know what they're doing in crossings (and we are very careful and watch them), and the city is very walkable. it's not to hard to get around, except that not all streets have names or signs.
i could maybe say that the city looks a bit like you might expect an italian town to look like, with colorful but old & somewhat crumbly buildings, often with balconies that have flower gardens and clothes hanging from the line. There is old tirana and new tirana. although i'm not sure of the dividing line, it is easy to tell the difference. the new buildings are tall and nice, often this is what we see on postcards. the city is more colorful than many american cities, which is nice. it also seems not so different from a mexican city at times, though it is paved usually and has sidewalks, and is not quite so dusty.
old tirana shows its age and the wear of communism and troubles. the area our appartment (eva's) is in is older, the stairs have holes or uneven dips in the cement, and the house below us has decaying clay/pottery shingles. that house also has a turkey (i laughed as it sounded much like dad's funny turkey call) and chickens, and we can hear dogs also. inside eva's appartment though, as i think i've said, is very nice and clean and decorated beautifully, as i think i've told you, although it is small. she tells us that before communism, they had a big beautiful house with a yard. another told us that during communism many houses were taken away (perhaps destroyed or made into government buildings) and many people instead ended up living in the 5-story appartment complexes that went up. there were not many tall buildings at all before this. Eva said that the current mayor of Tirana has done a good job fixing up the city a bit, even if his motives are suspect.
CURRENT EVENTS
right now there is election drama going on, though i'm still trying to find out more (difficult issues to understand when asking those with broken english). as far as i know there are two parties, "democrat" (with mostly democratic ideals) and "socialist" (remnants of communist i think). our host eva tells us she finds it suspicious that the current prime minister, who now insists he is democrat, used to be the secretary of the communist government. i believe that this is the 13th day of a hunger strike by the socialists, i think, who are protesting because, from what i can gather, they believe there was a miscount of votes. if you wish perhaps you could research it more. but it is troubling for many who know what goes on. although i hear that socialist is the minority.
TEACHING
We do not start teaching til monday, although there is an orientation today in which we hope to find out more about the classes will be teaching.
i suppose that's enough for now, i will try to write just a bit later this week if possible when i hear about our teaching, and then i will proabbly write near the beginning of next week.
please pray for me as we go in to teaching... the lincoln center says "learn from the experts" but i do not feel like an expert. in english, in that i speak it, maybe. but not in teaching. i have never really taught english before at all. pray for God's continued grace for me and patience as i learn and practice.
much love to you all and thank you for your interest and prayers.
Jessie